Each person lives in both a communal and private world. You often confuse these two realities. You naturally see all behavior and thoughts within a communal or public frame of reference. The fact is that each individual interprets others (communal) activity within the context of their private and personal point of view. This disconnect is a frequent cause of conflicts in a relationship. In fact all behavior is translated thru the prism of your individual perspective. Therefore, this is no objective and communal interaction.
Keeping this awareness in the front of your mind ensures a productive and lasting relationship. Diversity is the celebration of the mystery of life. Observe each world as a story where each scene is rich with possibilities, and life will be a joy!